Copini Counseling
As a certified relationship therapist, I work based on the principles of Integrated Behavioral Couples Therapy (IBCT) , a scientifically proven method that helps partners understand each other better and reduce tension.
With a diverse background in international business and having faced personal challenges such as divorce and illness, I understand the rollercoaster that every person and relationship can find themselves on.
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The common thread in my life is that people often trust me with both their professional challenges and personal issues. I am a good listener and genuinely interested in others. Becoming a relationship therapist felt like a natural step and is a valuable complement to my knowledge and experience in the business world.
With 17 years of expat experience in different countries and cultures, I can also help expat couples with the specific challenges of relationships in an international setting.
My approach is down-to-earth and direct, with a healthy dose of humor. I like to create a relaxed atmosphere in which mutual understanding and effective interaction are central. The focus is on developing my clients' strengths and improving their communication.
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Sessions can be conducted in either Dutch or English, at my office in Bussum or online.
Would you like to know if I can help you? Please contact me for a telephone appointment.
Help!
Your emotions may be running high if you have come to my site. You may be feeling intense emotions such as anger, sadness, or dissatisfaction.
Anyway, your relationship is not going well and you know that this cannot go on. The problems are too big and frequent; something has to change.
Repair relationship
Many couples think their relationship is over when they reach this point. Sometimes this may be the case, but more often than not, there is more to salvage than you think.
I help you to understand each other better, to positively communicate, and to resolve conflicts and problems.
Individual therapy
If your partner does not want to come along or if you are single with recurring relationship problems, you can also come to therapy alone.
I can also help if you are having trouble leaving a destructive relationship, to restore your self-confidence and regain your future perspective.
End relationship
Sometimes couples decide to split up after therapy.
You will get to know yourself and the other person really well throughout our sessions. You may conclude that your personalities and needs are too different for a future together.
In that case, I can help you take the next step constructively.
How does it work?
The start
After an initial introduction over the phone, we proceed with the intake session. Following that, I have a one-hour conversation with each partner individually. Then, the therapy sessions begin.
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The purpose of the intake and individual conversations is to thoroughly assess the relationship issues.
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From this assessment, a treatment plan is developed. We formulate a clear request for help and set mutual goals.
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The core principle is that everyone is allowed to be themselves, but your behavior can change in a positive way.
The solutions
We focus on accepting differences between each other and fostering empathy and understanding for each other's perspectives.
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What can you accept from one another, and what can't you? How can you share your needs and set boundaries in a constructive way?
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How can you improve your communication? How can you approach problems together as a team?
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Depending on how things progress, most couples need around 10 sessions (excluding the intake and individual conversations).
The result
You will breathe new life into your relationship. You’ll get to know yourself and each other better. You’ll become kinder to one another and develop a deeper appreciation for each other. Conflicts will be managed more effectively, and you’ll notice that your emotional bond grows stronger.
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However, there are times when couples decide not to continue together after therapy. Sometimes, you may realize that your personalities and needs are so different that you no longer see a future together.
Structure
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Intro telephone conversation
15 minutes
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Joint intake
90 minutes
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Individual conversations
2 x 1 hour
Therapy sessions approx. 10 in total
90 minutes
Relationship therapy is not reimbursed by health insurers
"We were actually on the verge of breaking up. That was during the COVID period and we couldn't go anywhere. We decided to find out if there was anything to salvage. That's how we ended up with Manon.
She helped us understand each other better and interact in a positive way. The sessions were intense, but strangely enough also relaxed, and after a few times we could even laugh again.
We have learned so much in a relatively short time. Not only my relationship has benefited, but also my personal growth over all. The positive change is noticed at work and in other social interactions.
Our relationship is stronger and more fun than ever."
Lisa